I’m Hayley Berlingeri, Adelaide born and bred, mamma of three, and here I am just finding my way (AKA fumbling!!) through my days with my little ones, trying to be the best version of me that I possibly can be (which more often than not, results in me flopped out on the sofa at 10:34pm eating an entire packet of Mint Slice bickies, and thanking God that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it!)
Before the babes came in to being, I poured my heart into my career as a Junior Primary teacher and JP Coordinating Principal, I travelled the world, near and far, and I solidly slept. But since then have given every waking minute to motherhood and all its mess, mayhem and marvel. Oh, and I love to share our stories in squares on our intsapage!
“I’m about to become a mum! What was it like for you the first time round?”
Estelle, Golden Grove
Hard! So very and so shockingly hard.
You know that hour between night and day, where it’s not one thing or the other? Yep, we all know it, us mums. And, I knew it SO well, and I was SO sick of knowing it. I just wanted to GO. TO. SLEEP. For longer than two seconds. I was desperate to remember what it felt like to wake up after the sun had risen. Even when other mothers who’ve gone before you tell you about the overbearing heaviness of that tiredness, you can never grasp it. You can’t ever understand the monstrosity of it until you’re living it. And I struggled with living it. I remember the day that Paolo went back to work after a month at home with us. It was especially daunting for me. And I secretly wanted to gouge his eyes out because I was so jealous that he was escaping the new nut house and leaving me, ALONE, to try and keep this kid alive! How dare he!!! But I got myself together, new mum bun and all, and I took our teeny 4 week old Valentina for a stroll around the neighbourhood. And screaming so loudly in my head was the thought that I DON’T WANT TO DO THIS AGAIN TONIGHT!! And the next night. And the one after that. For all eternity!!! And I was hoping (well, to be honest, desperately willing) for some really kind, pretty, motherly kidnapper to come along (you know, an early thirties gal with a jazzy haircut, a good heart, and a longing for a child!) and run away with my baby. I was even going to let her keep my brand spanking new $1500 pram. And all I was going to do was wave them off happily, and with a sigh of ‘good riddance’, turn around, walk back home and drag my sloth-like self into bed and SLEEP!!!! FOREVERRR!!!! All day and all night. I wasn’t even going to call the police. I was just going to go the f*#k to sleep and never speak of the whole ordeal again. And that’s when I knew I wasn’t right. And so I called for an appointment with my GP…but that’s a tale for another time!! So, there’s just a snippet of the sheer overwhelming enormity that becoming a Mum was to me. But, thank God all of that fear, that unknowing, that newness is combated by the instant, indescribable, unfathomable love that the teeny, screaming, not-sleeping bundle brings!
Love Hayley xox
Got a question about life, motherhood or eating chocolate biscuits… I’ll give you an answer! @sweetlittlestory
SOUTH AUSTRALIA‘S YOUNG POETS TAKE OVER
– History Festival Poetry Takeover Challenge open for entries
Throughout May 2020, the History Trust of South Australia is inviting budding poets in years 4 to 11 to participate in the History Trust’s first ever online poetry challenge.
Asking young South Australian poets to answer questions such as:
What does local history mean to you?
Why are objects important and why should we care?
Why would a museum have that particular object on display?
What’s the story?
Originally part of South Australia’s History Festival 2020, which was this year postponed, the Poetry Takeover Challenge aims to engage young people with history and museum collections in a new and creative way – even if they can’t visit in person.
Poetry Takeover Challenge participants will create a poem taking inspiration from the collections of the History Trust and other museums and galleries across South Australia.
South Australia’s History Festival Manager Karen Blackwood said the theme of the Poetry Takeover Challenge is change which is now more relevant than ever.
“In times of change and uncertainty, poetry offers a unique outlet to express complex emotions, to connect, to sooth the soul or simply have fun playing with words.”
“The Poetry Takeover challenge provides a platform for young people to take some of the fascinating items held in the collections of South Australia’s cultural institutions and to interpret them through fresh eyes. We’re excited to see how our state’s young poets respond to the challenge,” Karen continued.
The History Trust will publish Poetry Takeover Challenge poems in an online gallery and share across the History Trust’s social media. Every young poet who submits an original poem will be in the running to win one of six $50 Dymocks vouchers, chosen by a panel of peers. Community Choice prizes will also be decided online by popular vote. Entries close on Sunday 31 May at 5pm.
The Poetry Takeover Challenge was originally planned as part of the South Australia’s History Festival education program. The History Festival, which usually takes place from 1-31 May each year, is one of the state’s largest community festivals. The 2020 festival program included almost 700 events, presented by over 400 organising groups.
Entry is FREE, to access forms, resources, links to online collections and further details https://poetrytakeover.com.au/
History Festival Poetry Takeover Challenge
When: 1 – 31 May, 2020
For: SA students in years 4 – 11.
MINI MAD THINGS ISO CRAFT KITS!
MINI MAD craft kits are brimming with crafty fun ready for you to get creative at home! The kits are designed inspire open-ended creativity. With their range of beautiful, engaging materials, you can either follow the Mini Mad Things craft tutorials or create your own fun projects.
There are lots of options. Check out the Collage Creative Craft Kit below:
COLLAGE CREATIVE CRAFT KIT
With the COLLAGE CREATIVE craft box you have the option of making the following MINI MAD CRAFT projects:
Paper Bag Monster masks
PLUS extra materials to make your own creations
The box includes the following materials:
Cardboard rainbow template x1
Cardboard robot body parts x1
Large paper bag to make a mask x1
Cardboard printing block bases x1
Textured materials to make printing blocks
Ready cut collage materials in rainbow colours
A sheet of monster and robot eyes to cut out
A4 white and coloured paper x8 sheets
To complete these projects you will also need the following tools/materials that are NOT supplied in this box:
PVA glue or glue sticks
Paint and brushes
Coloured marker pens
MINI MAD CRAFT kits are all beautifully presented and packed with care, no plastic packaging materials are used AND you can use the cardboard packing box to start building your own CARDBOARD BOX TOWN!
Suitable for ages 3+
Check out more boxes at MINI MAD THINGS
WHAT IS SHARENTING? THE TROUBLING BEHAVIOUR BY LOVING PARENTS
– Helen Connolly, Commissioner for Children and Young People
Troubling behaviour by loving parents
‘Sharenting’ is a word now so overused and ‘punny’ that it actually undermines the important cause the term was originally coined to highlight. Sharenting – for those who don’t know – is when a parent regularly shares photos and/or stories about their child without any consideration of the impact this might have on the child’s privacy and agency, either at the time, or when they’re old enough to be on social media themselves.
The ironic thing about sharenting is that many of the most engaged, conscientious, and caring mums and dads around, have been shown to be the main culprits. A 2018 study by the London School of Economics titled ‘What do parents think, and do, about their children’s online privacy?’ revealed that three in four parents who regularly use social media, posted pictures and videos of their kids. In fact, the study went on to say that “parents who say they are concerned about privacy are more likely to share images of their children online – both with close family or friends, and with wider contacts”.
I’ve been hearing that when it comes time for kids to establish their own social media accounts (around the age of 13), they are frequently unsettled and very embarrassed to discover that they already have a significant historical digital footprint they knew nothing about. Discovery of this unknown footprint, created by the people in their lives who are supposed to have their best interests at heart, can leave many children feeling upset, humiliated, or betrayed.
Posting the obligatory first day of school snapshot quickly becomes less appealing when we consider how many strangers will view that photo with the name of the school, possibly the full name of our child, and quite likely, the geo-location of where the picture was taken. What about a photo of our child in their bathers at the beach? If we wouldn’t hand out images or information to a stranger in the checkout line at the supermarket, should we be posting it online?
Even without our social media settings switched to public, if any friend comments on or likes our post, their friends may receive access to it too, and once online, it can end up anywhere.
So before any of us posts another pic or video of our child or grandchild online, we need to stop and consider the impact it may have on that child down the line. If we can hear them objecting, we should consider that not posting it might just end up strengthening the trust that exists between us. That way, when it does come time for them to be making decisions about what they do post about themselves online, they will be able to turn to us for guidance and reassurance – and surely no number of ‘likes’, ‘shares’ or ‘comments’ could be more important than that!
Try out my practical tips for being a ‘Smartparent’ when using social media at ccyp.com.au/guides-and-fact-sheets/
If you’re a child, young person or parent who would like to get in touch with me send an email to CommissionerCYP@sa.gov.au
or visit ccyp.com.au